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One Dude You Will Never Regret Breaking Up With

Thank you Andile Nyasha for writing your testimony. I had to share it with my Single Ready and Waiting friends.
  
"One compliment I loved by my bestfriend was when she said to me "Nyasha, you move on so fast - thats the thing about you, you never stay crying for a guy for a long time". That made my year - and that was last night ;) 2011 is a great year so far!


I thought about this for a moment and it's true; and I will share the secret with you tonight.


I have had my share of douche bags when I was younger; I have held on to men because I thought I would never get anyone to love me the same. Like I said before and Imma say it again; I am NOT a strong woman. I have cried for men, I have lost sleep and some hair over men, cheated and been cheated on, I have given and taken emotional and physical abuse, dated addicts, gave my all and ditched my own life for the sake of making someone love me.  I have been through what all of you have been going through; I know what it's like and I won't hide it.


However, I got out of all that nonsense and I credit it ALL to Jesus. I remember clutching on to my blankets and crying at night after I had been isolated from my family and friends, sleeping with a man who would use the same hands to touch me in a loving way - then beat me. The same mouth to kiss me - and then call me all sort of names and degrade me. That's the infamous EX-boyfriend my close friends like to call Mike Tyson. *LOLest - we gave him a nickname* When his real name is mentioned we all say "whose that?*

So anyways when I was with Mike Tyson, I would cry in bed and ask God to remove me from the situation. At the time I didn't even believe in Jesus; but after so much prayer the Spirit of God lead me to church. I would go to church and go back to him - I'd lie to the pastor and tell him I was going home, but I was going to see him. Eventually I would spend more time at church and at bible study than I would with him. When I was at his place I would beg him to listen to sermons - Thinking it would make him change. Girl, it didn't work. The last week I saw Mike was when I went over to his place and I wouldn't french kiss him or anything because I didn't want to sin. He used his lines "But you know I love you" for the first time I saw it for the BIGGEST LIE IT WAS! I saw it in his eyes, and everything he did. I had planned to get baptised a month after that so I didn't want to sin against God anymore - that very week I got a call that the baptisim was going to be moved to that weekend. I didn't even have a chance to think I just did it.


“Come, follow me,” Jesus said, “and I will send you out to fish for people.” Mark 1:17

I have never looked back since; and no man has ever laid hands on me ever again. Each time I fell into sexual sin the Lord made that relationship end immediately by hardening MY heart; I never got attached and I had the power to just never call the guy again. I never even cried for any of them - but one thing I noticed was I never enjoyed the sex - infact sometimes I would cry because I was hurting my true Lover's heart - Jesus.


I am not a strong woman, I am a woman of strength. My strength comes from God.


Psalm 18:1-3,28,35

"I will love You, O LORD, my strength. The LORD is my rock and my fortress and my deliverer; My God, my strength, in whom I will trust; My shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold. I will call upon the LORD, who is worthy to be praised; So shall I be saved from my enemies."


When I go on dates and I get rejected, it makes me love Jesus more in knowing that he protected me from a douche who cannot even see that I am hotstuff. Lines like I miss you no longer work - ofcourse guys miss me, I am missable! I am loveable, and I can have anybody when they leave so I don't stress. It's a lie to say I don't get completely hurt cause I do and dear ol' besty can testify that I go through lamentations; but I pray at the same time; then joy comes in the morning when I realize that I am swimming in an ocean of men. I don't waste time - on to the next, or I invite my other besty for ice-cream and movies.


* Women tend to believe that no one will love you like the dude you are with. Thats a lie.


* Or that who you are is an unloveable person because of character flaws. Another lie.

"Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the LORD is kept safe." Proverbs 29:25


I can assure you someone in this life will love you more than any dude you are with. Unless you are married because that's an unbreakable bond - and I do not give any advice on such situations to married women because I truly do not know how to go about it except to get on my knees and trust in God. But to us single ladies - always tell yourself "ON TO THE NEXT" when a dude beats you or cheats on you, or has excessive attitude problems like not calling *LIKE EVER* or not spending enough quality time , or simply if you do not click.


Don't tell your dude EVERYTHING ABOUT YOU. Jesus is working on you, and your embarrassing past is no longer who you are - keep somethings a secret. Don't endure any kind of abuse or manipulation. Don't be shy around a guy you think is cute because he is just a person and have you looked in the mirror lately - you are so fine; so why wouldn't he like you? Pray before you go on a date so the Lord may guide you. Don't sleep with anyone because it will be musch easier to walk away if you keep your legs closed - and not to mention keep your dignity. Date quality guys you are actually attracted to - don't settle for less - unless his personality is beyond awesome - then forget what people say or think about his looks. Don't ever pray for a dude to be the "one" before you actually get to know him and date him for at least a year.


If all else fails - its better to be single and fabulous than dating and misserable. Your dude is coming - don't be desperate it looks so bad on you!"

Single Ready Waiting
I agree with Andile 110%
Hope you got something from her testimony.
You can find more of Andile's writing on Facebook under Love and Relationship Tips

Socialize and Enterprise Event Review

Sharing my thoughts on the Socialize and Enterprise Event held on Thursday, September 22nd, 2011
Organizer: Jon Sarpong, Editor of Sway Magazine
 
When Robert and I arrived at the Trane Studio we had no trouble finding close parking and we were still able to find seats even after 9:00pm.

Around 9:30pm the organizer and host Jon Sarpong, the Editor of Sway Magazine, had the audience engage in a fun and interactive game where we we had to find two people that matched the category announced. This game broke the ice and got everyone moving and talking.

Men to Woman Ratio

From my observation there seemed to have been a decent amount of men compared to woman that night. Very good thing.

Food

Didn't get the chance to taste the food. They stopped taking orders after 10pm not sure if this is a regular thing or not. Drinks however are still available.

Performers


Jay Martin had the crowd laughing and Karen Jules along with 4 great singers entertained us with dub poetry and song.

SRW Rating: 

7 out of 10 stars

This event is great for mingling and meeting new people and if  you happen to have a business even better. They are very open to having you share what you do with their audience.

I got the opportunity:

Socialize and Enterprise will be a monthly event so if you haven't gone, you should.
Trane Studio (964 Bathurst St), 7pm, $10  http://www.xlfaith.com/

Is Your Mind Renewed?

Romans 12:2
Be not conformed to this world but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind that ye may proove what is that good, acceptable and perfect will of God.

Food For Thought!

Welcome to the first Single Ready & Waiting Video Blog.

So you've met a guy or woman and your talking about going out together for the first time or maybe you've been getting to know each other over the phone.

My question to you is, are you asking the right questions?  

Are you about to cut someone off because they're lacking in an area? 

Listen to some of my suggestions and reminders in this Video Blog. It may take a second to load.

Off To A Good Start!

Love, Romance, Fun, Laughter, Intimacy, and Communication are a few attributes used to describe the institution of marriage. However research has shown that the first few years of marriage are usually the most challenging.

We believe our happiness is directly linked to how our relationship began. Having learned from past relationship mistakes, we had a different state of mind this time around. We decided to totally give this area over to God and ask Him for His guidance. His word says “In all thy ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct thy paths” (Prov.3:6). In doing so, we found that He masterfully orchestrated each season of our relationship.

The season of Friendship; Courtship; and then Engagement. During these seasons we experienced challenges, tests and learned some lessons along the way. Looking back, we thank God for them all. They only helped to prepare us for the realities of marriage. Moreover, we were presented with certain choices and when we chose to respond according to God’s word, it made our transition into another stage that much easier.

After finally arriving to the season of engagement, three short months later we walked down the aisle, repeated the vows and danced our way out of the sanctuary to a funky island tune by Jermaine Cowan. What a bright and sunny day in September that was.

Our advice to those waiting for a mate is this: try not to look at how long the wait is, God could be taking this time to perfect some things in you and your husband/wife to be. Instead, enjoy every moment you have as a single. Know who you are and what your purpose in life is and get busy living it out.

Marriage is God’s idea and we have chosen to live it out according to his Word. For a marriage built upon the rock: God’s Word cannot be easily moved. But will be like that tree described in the book of Jeremiah 17:8 one that “is planted by the water that sends out its roots by the stream. It does not fear when heat comes; its leaves are always green. It has no worries in a year of drought and never fails to bear fruit." By God’s grace we will continue to be that tree.


Robert and Tanika Chambers