Another SRW Interview - Tia & Peter, Found Love In Their Home Church

SRW:  Tia, thank you so much for allowing me to interview you all the way from Neptune Township, New Jersey.:) We met through the  Love & Marriage group on Facebook and I got the sense that you are a happily married woman and I was curious to know how you met your husband, Peter.

SRW: So, where did you meet?
 
Tia: I met my husband in our present home church.

SRW : Was it love at first sight?
 
Tia: No. I'm older than he is and we grew up in the same church, so, I've known him since he was very young. He was actually annoying. (Lol)


SRW: Who first spoke to whom?
 
Tia: I'm not sure who spoke to whom first, romantically.

SRW: When/How did you know that he was the One?
 
Tia: I knew he was the one for me because we were best friends.

SRW: Was there ever a time when you felt like ending your courtship?
What kept you going?
 
Tia: I never felt like ending our courtship. I thought it may be necessary to end it because his father passed away and I thought his time might be better spent looking after his mother. He didn't want to end our relationship. So, it didn't end.

SRW: Who takes out the garbage and recycling?
 
Tia: The kids.

SRW: I better hurry up and have some kids then...lol. My husband is the garbage collector at my house, wouldn't trade him for the world, he never skips a beat. 

SRW: What was the last movie you went out to see together?
 
Tia: The last movie we saw was 'Jack & Jill'.
 
SRW: Any children?

Tia: We have a daughter and two sons.

SRW: Was marriage all that it was cracked up to be ?
 
Tia: Yes! I enjoy it very much.

SRW: Name one thing you did to help prepare you for marriage?
 
Tia: I enjoyed my single life very much.

SRW: Any advice to singles?
 
Tia: Enjoy your single life to the fullest so when you get married, you have no regrets, you're happy, and you're not looking back to your single life.

SRW: Well said Tia. Well said.

Are U Married/Engaged and would like to be apart of the Love and Marriage group, just ask. See Link  https://www.facebook.com/groups/173893812633957/

Why Oprah Refuse's To Marry

God knows how I appreciate Oprah, what she has overcome, and what she has been able to do over the years. But, her reason to not marry concerns me.

Take a look at this interview on Youtube and listen carefully to her reasons why she refuses to marry.  It is definitely, NOT the mindset you want to have towards marriage. 

I don't know of any wife, that wouldn't want to do anything nice for their husband when he is the loving, caring, and sensitive to her needs, type of guy.  But if the truth be told, Oprah is not the only woman that fears the "S" word. (Submission.)

Could it be Oprah's past why she refuses to marry or could it be the billions of dollars she makes?? 

Well, like I said before it is NOT the kind of mindset God would want us to have towards marriage.  God calls us all to submit to his authority/His word and in marriage woman and men are to submit to each other out of reverence for Christ. Ephesians 5:2  

I pray that Oprah will come around and do what is pleasing in God's eye: marrying her main man Stedman.

Now the clip:

http://youtu.be/drDhtbBW3bk

Some Background Info About Oprah.

"Oprah Winfrey was born poor and black in Mississippi in 1954, when poor and black meant no flush toilets, no shoes, and no real chance to get ahead in the world. She was supposed to be "Orpah" Winfrey, named for the Biblical Ruth's sister-in-law (see Ruth, chapter 1), but the name was spelled wrong on her birth certificate, and soon everyone was calling her Oprah. She learned to read at home, and skipped kindergarten to go straight into first grade. She skipped second grade, too. At 17 she was working as a reporter for a local radio station. She was a bright kid.


And beautiful -- at 18, Winfrey won the Miss Black Tennessee beauty pageant. At 19, she was anchoring a newscast on Nashville's WTVF-TV. She later co-anchored the nightly newscast at WJZ-TV in Baltimore, and co-hosted a local talk show called People Are Talking, before jumping to Chicago's WLS-TV. Her morning talk show there debuted in 1984, and rose to number one in the ratings within a month. Outside of local telecasts, Oprah first drew national attention in her film debut, The Color Purple, for which she snagged an Oscar-nomination as best supporting actress. She's acted in other films since, but never nearly so well. Winfrey's talk show went national in 1986, and as it had in Chicago, Oprah took the top spot almost immediately. It's been the top-rated daytime talk show ever since.


Winfrey has spoken of being sexually abused as a child, and stated publicly that she'll never have children of her own. 


She is the first black American woman billionaire -- net worth $2.4B (Forbes 2010) -- and reportedly makes about half a million dollars a day from her TV show alone. She owns or co-owns the Oxygen Network, O Magazine, her own Harpo Studio, Harpo Productions, Harpo Films, Harpo Print, Harpo Video, and the Oprah Winfrey Network. Harpo, of course, is Oprah spelled backwards."


Go here to read the entire article
http://www.nndb.com/people/466/000022400/

Single Ready & Waiting. Theme Song Unleashed!!

The Single Ready and Waiting Theme Song represents the colours of the traffic light for a very good reason.

Stop - Red - Single
Wait - Yellow - Ready/preparing
Go - GREEN - Waiting for God's GREEN LIGHT. 


Never choose a mate on your own. Father God want's to give you the desire's of your heart which will be what you NEED. In the meantime Be patient, Be Ready & Be waiting for it. Thou it tarry, it shall surely come!!! Habakkuk 2:3

A SRW Interview. How Kai Met Her Husband Gary Grosse

SRW: Hi Kai, thank you so much for having this interview with me. I have never forgotten how you and your husband Gary were there for me when I was going through a difficult time in my life back in 2005.
I know that your prayers availed much.

I knew Gary before you both got married; as he was my choir director in Windsor, Ontario for a few years, and I knew it would take a very special woman to catch his eye.

So tell me Kai (pronounced Ki-E) how did you meet my choir leader, Gary Grosse?

Kai: I saw Gary for the first time at a church in Grand Rapids, MI but actually met him at a church in Windsor, ON


SRW: Was it love at first sight?

Kai: No, but I was impressed to see someone not of African-American background (or so I thought) eat soul food.

SRW: Who first spoke to whom?

Kai: He spoke to me first.  He told a mutual friend that he wanted to meet me & that friend introduced us.

SRW: When/How did you know that he was the One?

Kai: I knew he was the one after our very first phone conversation.  I knew because 1) he fit all of the character traits I asked the Lord for in a husband and 2) I just had a "knowing" that he was the one. 


SRW: Was there ever a time when you felt like ending your courtship?
What kept you going?

Kai: Yeah, I wanted to end it, but he stalked me :-)  Seriously, he made me talk about what I was unhappy or upset about and wouldn't let me take the easy way out of "escape" as he would put it.


SRW: What shampoo do you use to wash your hair? What does he use?

Kai: I use Biolage Hydrating Shampoo & Macadamia Natural Oil Deep Repair Masque conditioner. Because I switch shampoo's every 5-6 months, he uses whatever remains of the previous shampoo.  This time it's Pantene Pro-V Moisture Renewal.


SRW: What was the last movie you went out to see together?

Kai: Resident Evil 4 in 2010.


SRW: Any Children?

Kai: Yes, 2 boys ages 2 & 3...16 months apart.  Thus, we go out for dinner but too tired for the movie :-0


SRW: Was marriage all that it was cracked up to be ?

Kai: Yes because I'm with God's man for me!


SRW: Name one thing you did in the courting stage to help prepare you for marriage?

Kai: Became less focus on what I wanted and focused more on what was best for us as a couple.


SRW: Any advice to singles?

Kai: Be sure it's the person God has for you.  Marriage is hard enough even with the right one.

The God Fearing Man

By Olusegun (Nigeria)   

"If you ask the average single Christian woman what qualities she looks for in the choice of a marriage partner; she is certainly going to say that the man must be God fearing. A God fearing man therefore is a "hotcake" in the choice of marriage partner.

Apart from the Christian women, Christian men would also readily agree that it is better to relate with a God fearing man. But the meaning of a God fearing man seems relative. It does appear as if our understanding of a God fearing man is a man that does things in a way that agrees with our desire.

It is therefore imperative to look at the word of God to understand what it means when God remarks that a man is God fearing. This is even more important because the scripture says, "The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge: but fools despise wisdom and instruction." (Proverbs 1:7)

There cannot be a God fearing man without Christ. It is IMPOSSIBLE for a man outside Christ to be God fearing. That is why repentance from dead works is the first quality of a God fearing man.

You can read the rest of his article here: http://www.hem-of-his-garment-bible-study.org/the-god-fearing-man-part-1-2-and-4.html

From Dating to a Committed Relationship. Did Singer, Monica Make It To The Altar?

I have always liked Monica...here she is talking about her relationship with 25-year-old Laker player, Shannon Brown.

 


Did they make the transition into a committed relationship and walk down the aisle?
 
They sure did.  

It's official...again.  They already had their official private ceremony last November with just the two of them and witnesses.  But they wanted a second, big and lavish wedding for all their family and friends.

30-year old Monica (Arnold) Brown wed her 25-year-old Laker hubby Shannon Brown in a stunning ceremony in Los Angeles in front of about 300 guests. http://theybf.com/2011/07/09/just-married-monica-shannon-brown-wedding-deets-inside

Check, check, check it out!!

Plan & Prepare - Single's Christmas Gala Event REVIEW

On Saturday, November 26th, 2011 I had the priviledge of attending the Planned & Prepare event at the Crosspoint Church. It was a great evening.


SRW Rating: 
7 out of 10 stars

As usual not enough men but who needs men when you got JESUS right.....:)

Seriously speaking I think I have the answer to how we can get more men at single events... will release this information soon.


I was able to capture some of the highlights for the night and a sit down interview with the Founder of Plan & Prepare Rev. Lorne Shepherd. He along with Marlene Mackenzie, Co-Founder of Plan & Prepare came up with coordinating unique seminars for single adults to prepare them for marriage.

Watch

What Every Single Woman Needs To Know Part 1 & 2

PART 2

An Interview With My Diva Sister-in-law Kerry Archer

 

Hi Kerry thank you for having this interview with me. First, I must say that God blessed me with great in-laws, you being one of them.  Now, your husband and I have something very special in common and I know that you will never forget my birthday….(chuckle).

Kerry you have been blessed with a great husband and I wanted to share a part of your story with my SRW friends.

So, how did you meet my birthday twin?(smile)

Kerry: "Rayton and I met through Track and Field.”

Who first spoke to whom?

Kerry: “He said hi a few times but I made the crucial move to set everything in motion, I didn't know it at the time.”

How did you know that he was the One?

Kerry: "Honestly every guy that I spoke to gave me a hard time to visit church.  He was the only one that said "sure what time should I be there and actually came," I thought maybe there is hope for him yet!"

(SRW: Rayton currently serves in the security department at the church they both attend).

Was there ever a time that you felt like ending your courtship?

Kerry: "He was away for school in the U.S. and we both were having a hard time being away from each other.  I prayed if it's meant to be we will be together. We decided to make it work no matter what because Love is a powerful thing!  Now we have been together 20 years, married 12 1/2 years and we have 4 beautiful children."

What color is your toothbrush? and his?

Kerry: "Mine is a light blue and his is a dark blue."

What was the last movie you went out to see together?

Kerry: "Transformers 3"

(SRW: wonder who's pick it was, I forgot to ask)

Was marriage all that it was cracked up to be?

Kerry: "Marriage is whatever you put into it.  It's not easy, after all the excitement of the wedding and the honeymoon is over the real commitment sets in.  Marriage takes Time and Effort from both parties to make it work. It takes Patience for those days your spouse gets on your nerves.  It takes Understanding and Communication to realize how different you both are and how to make life better for each other. It takes Forgiveness, this is a big one! Know that we all have our faults, we make the wrong decisions or even say the wrong things, but always try to see if there is a way to get through it.  Then there is Love, love conquers all they say, that's debatable! But when you truly love someone for better or worse mean it!  For example; Lack of finances may strain any relationship but with love, God helps you find a way.  Make sure there is action behind it because it will not fix itself."   

Any advice for singles?

Kerry: "Don't be afraid to make the first move, sometimes the other person your interested in maybe thinking should I? I don't know, what if I get rejected? Well, what if they are the one for you? You will never know until you try!  I don't believe rejection is a bad thing in life, it just sets you up for the best thing of your life."

Hope this helps!

Love Kerry 

Six Words I Will Never Forget

 

When I saw this picture for the first time. I cried and cried.

The words that came to mind was that of an Evangelist, who preached a message I will never forget. The title: "Impending Danger." If the title alone didn't put the fear of God in me, a true story from his sermon did. 

The Story

One morning he had a vision of a Pastors daughter who was keeping her pregnancy a secret.  When he awoke from the vision he was  terribly disturbed. He was scheduled to preach at this Pastor's church that same evening.  

When he got to the church there she was; the young woman he saw in the vision.  Instead of calling her out before the crowd he finished his sermon and spoke to her in private. He had small talk and then asked if she was pregnant. Her answer "no". He then proceeded to tell her that the Holy Ghost showed him that she was pregnant and if it were true she should bare the shame and have the child. She repeated again, "I am not pregnant."

The Evangelist then left her alone hoping and praying in his heart that she would take heed to the words given to him by the Holy Spirit.

Days later he heard the bad news. This young woman was pregnant, but, she chose to end the pregnancy to avoid the shame. Shortly after her decision,  she lost her mental state of mind completely.

Back to the Service

The Fear of the Lord came over us all.

Then he said..”Saints, do not lie to the Holy Ghost, lest something worse happens to you.”

Read what happened to Ananias and Sapphira here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ananias_and_Sapphira

Why did I blog this story?

Christian singles who are in dating or courting relationships could succomb to temptation and become pregnant as a result of it. 

The truth is this, no matter how we may miss the mark along this Christian journey God is faithful and just to forgive us of our sins. 

(1 John 1: 9) If you are pregnant, or know of someone that is, won't you share the words of this evangelist with them or share this blog. Who know's it could help to save a life.

 

Here is a closer look at the story behind the picture seen above.

"A picture began circulating in November. It should be "The Picture of the Year," or perhaps, "Picture of the Decade." It won't be. In fact, unless you obtained a copy of the U.S. paper which published it, you probably would never have seen it.

The picture is that of a 21-week-old unborn baby named Samuel Alexander Armas, who is being operated on by surgeon named Joseph Bruner. The baby was diagnosed with spina bifida and would not survive if removed from his mother's womb. Little Samuel's mother, Julie Armas, is an obstetrics nurse in Atlanta. She knew of Dr. Bruner's remarkable surgical procedure. Practicing at Vanderbilt University Medical Center in Nashville, he performs these special operations while the baby is still in the womb.

During the procedure, the doctor removes the uterus via C-section and makes a small incision to operate on the baby. As Dr. Bruner completed the surgery on Samuel, the little guy reached his tiny, but fully developed hand through the incision and firmly grasped the surgeon's finger. Dr. Bruner was reported as saying that when his finger was grasped, it was the most emotional moment of his life, and that for an instant during the procedure he was just frozen, totally immobile.

The photograph captures this amazing event with perfect clarity. The editors titled the picture, "Hand of Hope." The text explaining the picture begins, "The tiny hand of 21-week-old fetus Samuel Alexander Armas emerges from the mother's uterus to grasp the finger of Dr. Joseph Bruner as if thanking the doctor for the gift of life."

Little Samuel's mother said they "wept for days" when they saw the picture. She said, "The photo reminds us pregnancy isn't about disability or an illness, it's about a little person" Samuel was born in perfect health, the operation 100 percent successful."

Bare the Shame Have The Child!

When Michelle Met Barack

By Liza Mundy

In the summer of 1989, Michelle Robinson told her mother she was going to concentrate on her law career and not worry about dating. She was 25 and had just finished her first year as an associate at Sidley & Austin, a corporate law firm in her home town of Chicago. Not long after, the firm assigned her to mentor a summer associate named Barack Obama.

Even then, there was a lot of buzz about this 27-year-old prodigy from Harvard Law School. Sidley didn't usually hire first-year law students as summer associates, so Barack's arrival was noteworthy. Martha Minow, a law professor at Harvard, told her father, Newton Minow, a high-ranking partner at Sidley, that Barack was possibly the most gifted student that she had ever taught. Michelle, who'd graduated from Harvard Law herself in 1988, felt annoyed by all the chattering. Why were people surprised that a black man might be articulate and capable?

Her own skepticism took a different form. His name struck her as odd, as did the fact that he had grown up in Hawaii. She assumed he would be "strange and overly intellectual" and that she would almost certainly dislike him. 

"He sounded too good to be true," she told David Mendell, author of "Obama: From Promise to Power." "I had dated a lot of brothers who had this kind of reputation coming in, so I figured he was one of these smooth brothers who could talk straight and impress people. So we had lunch, and he had this bad sport jacket and a cigarette dangling from his mouth, and I thought: 'Oh, here you go. Here's this good-looking, smooth-talking guy. I've been down this road before.' " 

Want to read more go here:http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/story/2008/10/03/ST2008100302144.html

"A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones"

Why Laugh?

Studies have proven that laughter lowers your blood pressure, heart rate and promotes health and overall well-being. It keeps you looking young and it can lighten any relationship.

People are attracted to each other for different reasons and having a good sense of humour is one of them. Have you ever heard the following: " It was his/her great sense of humour that got me interested in wanting to get to know him/her better?" 

Or what about "there is never a dull moment when I'm with him/her?" Clearly a good sense of humour is a great quality to have.

Ladies and Gents get your LAUGH on with this weeks SRW Youtube Friday Pick.

What kind of woman are you SUBURB or from the HOOD?

This is Hillarious:)

 Some more Laughs

Planning to Become A Christian One Day?

So you haven't given your life over to Christ yet but God has been tugging on your heart for sometime and you know that it is only a matter of time before you answer that call and accept Christ as your personal Saviour. But until then how should you view relationships. My advice to you is to only entertain men/woman that are going in the direction that you are planning to go. In your heart you want to be a Christian, don't be ashamed about that or ignore the fact that God is calling you. If/when you meet someone ask the right questions. Although you are not there yet find out if this person is interested in going to church, reading the bible and I'm not referring to conscious lyric talkers i.e Rastafarians. Ask about their values? Have they ever thought about becoming a Christian?

It's a beautiful thing when a couple decides to give their heart to God together, get baptised together and then marry. Wouldn't this be a dream come true. Well I've seen it happen. Does this mean one should wait until they meet a man/woman first before becoming a Christian? Absolutely NOT. The guy or girl you might be waiting on may never decide to accept Christ. So the decision is really yours. 

Remember the right person will lead you towards Christ,  the direction your heading in, and not away from Him.

Tanika Chambers

Single Ready & Waiting INTERVIEWS

Fiana Andrews

Founder of Approach2Link.

Are You Single Again?

Pastor Riva Tims say's she is Stronger, Wiser and Better

 

AZ: After being a prominent figure in the Christian community and seeing how your marriage unfolded in the public arena, how were you able to cope with this experience and perhaps people making assumptions and speculations?

RT: Well, I must say that was a difficult process. I had to repent for how I used to make assumptions about others. I was so amazed that people just wanted to have a quick fix with no deliverance. It should usually take at least a year for healing to be manifested. Often times I would hear people say they did not need to know what happened and then try to give advice or encouragement. How can you do that? Or, I would get long emails of advice and they had never once talked to me. The best thing for people to do in situations like that is to never take sides. But rather love both parties equally. I was able to cope through real friends who saw my frailties as well. They were willing to pray and stand with me and cover me.

AZ: What advice do you give the wives of young Pastors?

RT: I would advise them to keep their identity. Often times as young wives we tend to throw ourselves into the lives of our husbands, children and the church. Yes, we should do those things but in doing them we must not lose ourselves. They must continue to reinvent themselves and become a life time learner, get another degree or start a business. Be willing to take me time for a regiment of exercise and beauty treatments.

AZ: How do you embrace being single? Will you marry again?

RT: All the single ladies, all the single ladies….well I am making the best of it. It has been quite the learning experience for me. I have learned so much about myself. There has been quite a few things I did not know I was capable of doing. However, I had no other options but to do it by myself. I started a successful health and wellness business; I am a radio talk show host, co-host of a television broadcast, and Senior Pastor and founder of a wonderful church. WHAT!!!! A man did not do that for me, it has been the Lord on my side. Yes, Lawd! I will marry again. I love marriage and I still believe that it is God’s ultimate plan for reconciliation even in the most horrid situations.

AZ: How are your children doing?

RT: They are doing well. It has been an adjustment for all of us. I certainly Praise the Lord for keeping them. They are doing very well in school, sports and they are active in extracurricular activities.

AZ: How is Riva different today from five years ago?

RT: Like the song says, “I’m stronger, I’m wiser, I’m better, much better.” I think that says it all.

AZ: What is your passion? Where do you see God leading you to? 

RT: My passion is outreach. I love helping others to tap into their God given potential. I sincerely and actively believe in equipping the Saints to do the work. My ministry is extremely interactive and members are encouraged to utilize their God given gifts. I believe my destiny took a detour but God is leading me straight forward into the destiny and purpose He ordained for me before I was even in my mother’s womb.

Read the complete interview here: http://inspiredwomenmagazine.com/iwmonline/?p=1405

"In 2009, Tims and his wife Riva divorced after he admitted to a year-long affair with a stripper. The couple had been married for 15 years. After the divorce, Riva Tims founded Majestic Life Ministries in Orlando; they shared custody of their four children, including a son with Cerebral Palsy, according to the Majestic Life Ministries website." http://blogs.wsj.com/metropolis/2011/08/15/no-answers-in-death-of-florida-pastor-in-times-square-hotel/

On August 15, 2011 - Pastor Riva Tims ex-husband Pastor Zachery Tims was found dead on the floor of a room at the W Hotel in Times Square late Friday afternoon. He was 42 years old.

For more on Pastor Riva and her ministry go to www.majesticlifechurch.com

Just Be!

Be the kind of woman/man a Kingdom man/woman would want to marry and if you meet a man /woman that is NOT kingdom minded, which means he/she is looking for a girlfriend/boyfriend to have their way with and not a husband/wife, then do not waste your precious time.  As mature Christian adults that have spent time in the presence of God, you will not want anything less than a relationship that has PURPOSE/DESTINY written all over it, and trust me when you’ve found it you’ll know it!!!                       

Be blessed by the following  message ladies, and gents, choose to be the kind of man that will pursue woman ONLY when your READY with a Kingdom focus: MARRIAGE and don't be afraid to make the committment of putting "a ring on it."

 

Are Your Weakness's Under Control

Right when you thought the Maury Povich show or Judge Judy had all the drama you read the Bible and here comes baby mama drama, adultery and so much more.
 Have you read the story of Samson in the Bible? Well let me focus your attention to this story. It begins in the book of Judges Chapter 13 and it's filled with so much drama it will keep you turning the page to find out what happens next.

Let me share a portion with you:

 “So she cried whenever she was with him and kept it up for the rest of the celebration.  At last, on the seventh day, he told her the answer because of her persistent nagging.  Then she gave the answer to the young men….Then Delilah pouted, “How can you say you love me when you don’t confide in me?  You’ve made fun of me three times now, and you still haven’t told me what makes you so strong!”  So day after day she nagged him until he couldn’t stand it any longer…” (Judges 14:17; 16:15 NLT)

What can we learn from Samson’s story.

1.      Stay away from the wrong kind of woman/man.

The above text makes reference to two woman Samson fell in love with.  Both  were Philistines, of whom God had forbidden the Israelites to connect with.  But, Samson did not follow this forbidden command and married the first woman, only to be manipulated and betrayed by her shortly after they wed.  Then she nagged him so much for his secret that he ended up telling her.  As a result, Samson ended up acting impulsively and stepped outside of God’s will.  A couple of chapters later, Samson found himself in the same predicament with another Philistine woman named Delilah.  She kept asking him to tell her what made him so strong.  Time after time he refused to tell her.  But, like the first woman, when her nagging became unbearable, he revealed his secret and ended up losing his strength.

Word to the Wise: Be on your watch and guard. Men and now Woman can be very persistant when they have their eye on a man or woman they want. Do not allow their persistance to fool you especially if they are not in the will of God for your life. When you allow yourself to enter relationships that are forbidden by God you open yourself up to all sorts of negative situations.

If you call yourself a Christian God wants you to only consider 1 type of person for marriage; a Christian man or woman. Sounds simple right? Well, for some it is easier said than done. Instead of adhering to God’s commands to marry someone that is within the body of Christ with a Christ-like character and a reverence and fear of God, they choose to date and marry someone that does not have the fear of God much less obey His commands. Then he/she ends up attending church alone trying day in and out to get their spouse to accept Christ and serve him the way they do. This is backwards folks and not the way God had intended Kingdom marriages to be.

2.      Notice the reoccurring situations Samson found himself in. 

The devil uses the same tricks over and over which is why we all need to know what our weaknesse’s are. The devil has one goal and one goal only and this is to steal, kill and destroy our lives.( John 10:10)

Samson’s weakness was women and lust, but yours might be something different. 

Do you know what your weaknesses are?

If not, you will continue to fall into the same old tricks, bad habits and forfeit traveling the chosen path God created for you. 

3.      Although God’s purpose for Samson was ultimately fulfilled during his last days on earth, he could have lived a much better life had he learned to resist temptation.  

No one wants to live a life of regret this is why it is so important for us to not give in to temptation. 

God wants us all to live our best life while on earth following His blueprint.

Here are a few scriptures you can use to resist temptation and starve unhealthy cravings or desires in your life.

1.      "Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;" 2 Corinthians 10:5

      Now make this scripture personal: I cast down imaginations and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God and I bring into captivity my thoughts into the obedience of Christ.

2.      Pray the Lords prayer everyday. Matthew 6: 9-13 “....And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, for ever. Amen.”

      Now make this scripture personal: And lead me not into temptation but deliver me from evil .......

 Tanika Chambers

Never been kissed, never had a date, growing weary of waiting?

"That was me say's Candice Watters, author and co-founder of Boundless. I'd never had a boyfriend until I met Steve [my husband]. I had no passion in my life. The longer I waited, the more terrified I was that it would never happen.

Take a deep breath. Your purity is beautiful. It's a gift. I look back now and I think that God protected me from so much by just not letting me have a date. Even though it was so painful at the time to not have a date when everybody else did, I'm so thankful that I didn't come into my marriage with any relational baggage.

Start to pray boldly, passionately and intensely for the men who you know in your church or work. Pray that they will start to have God's perspective and vision for marriage for their own lives. Even if one of them doesn't end up being your spouse, you're praying in a way that will bless all of your sisters in Christ. And then pray that God would bring a husband into your life. You can pray boldly, because you're really asking God to give you what He wants you to have."

This was a portion of her interview with CBN.com to read the rest in it's entirety go to
http://www.cbn.com/family/datingsingles/jej_candicewatters0108.aspx

Hope you were blessed by this share SRW Friends.
In addition, never be ashamed or embarrased because you haven't been on a date or experienced sex. While TV shows, movies etc. all promote sex before marriage, making virgins seem like they are behind in the times, no sir, no ma'am this is exactly what God wants for all of his unmarried single men and woman; to abstain from sex until marriage. Listen, you are very special and don't believe otherwise. Lift up your head, dust yourself off and walk in confidence knowing that you are a rare gem, on reserve for a special man or woman.

"And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not." Galations 6:9

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One Dude You Will Never Regret Breaking Up With

Thank you Andile Nyasha for writing your testimony. I had to share it with my Single Ready and Waiting friends.
  
"One compliment I loved by my bestfriend was when she said to me "Nyasha, you move on so fast - thats the thing about you, you never stay crying for a guy for a long time". That made my year - and that was last night ;) 2011 is a great year so far!


I thought about this for a moment and it's true; and I will share the secret with you tonight.


I have had my share of douche bags when I was younger; I have held on to men because I thought I would never get anyone to love me the same. Like I said before and Imma say it again; I am NOT a strong woman. I have cried for men, I have lost sleep and some hair over men, cheated and been cheated on, I have given and taken emotional and physical abuse, dated addicts, gave my all and ditched my own life for the sake of making someone love me.  I have been through what all of you have been going through; I know what it's like and I won't hide it.


However, I got out of all that nonsense and I credit it ALL to Jesus. I remember clutching on to my blankets and crying at night after I had been isolated from my family and friends, sleeping with a man who would use the same hands to touch me in a loving way - then beat me. The same mouth to kiss me - and then call me all sort of names and degrade me. That's the infamous EX-boyfriend my close friends like to call Mike Tyson. *LOLest - we gave him a nickname* When his real name is mentioned we all say "whose that?*

So anyways when I was with Mike Tyson, I would cry in bed and ask God to remove me from the situation. At the time I didn't even believe in Jesus; but after so much prayer the Spirit of God lead me to church. I would go to church and go back to him - I'd lie to the pastor and tell him I was going home, but I was going to see him. Eventually I would spend more time at church and at bible study than I would with him. When I was at his place I would beg him to listen to sermons - Thinking it would make him change. Girl, it didn't work. The last week I saw Mike was when I went over to his place and I wouldn't french kiss him or anything because I didn't want to sin. He used his lines "But you know I love you" for the first time I saw it for the BIGGEST LIE IT WAS! I saw it in his eyes, and everything he did. I had planned to get baptised a month after that so I didn't want to sin against God anymore - that very week I got a call that the baptisim was going to be moved to that weekend. I didn't even have a chance to think I just did it.


“Come, follow me,” Jesus said, “and I will send you out to fish for people.” Mark 1:17

I have never looked back since; and no man has ever laid hands on me ever again. Each time I fell into sexual sin the Lord made that relationship end immediately by hardening MY heart; I never got attached and I had the power to just never call the guy again. I never even cried for any of them - but one thing I noticed was I never enjoyed the sex - infact sometimes I would cry because I was hurting my true Lover's heart - Jesus.


I am not a strong woman, I am a woman of strength. My strength comes from God.


Psalm 18:1-3,28,35

"I will love You, O LORD, my strength. The LORD is my rock and my fortress and my deliverer; My God, my strength, in whom I will trust; My shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold. I will call upon the LORD, who is worthy to be praised; So shall I be saved from my enemies."


When I go on dates and I get rejected, it makes me love Jesus more in knowing that he protected me from a douche who cannot even see that I am hotstuff. Lines like I miss you no longer work - ofcourse guys miss me, I am missable! I am loveable, and I can have anybody when they leave so I don't stress. It's a lie to say I don't get completely hurt cause I do and dear ol' besty can testify that I go through lamentations; but I pray at the same time; then joy comes in the morning when I realize that I am swimming in an ocean of men. I don't waste time - on to the next, or I invite my other besty for ice-cream and movies.


* Women tend to believe that no one will love you like the dude you are with. Thats a lie.


* Or that who you are is an unloveable person because of character flaws. Another lie.

"Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the LORD is kept safe." Proverbs 29:25


I can assure you someone in this life will love you more than any dude you are with. Unless you are married because that's an unbreakable bond - and I do not give any advice on such situations to married women because I truly do not know how to go about it except to get on my knees and trust in God. But to us single ladies - always tell yourself "ON TO THE NEXT" when a dude beats you or cheats on you, or has excessive attitude problems like not calling *LIKE EVER* or not spending enough quality time , or simply if you do not click.


Don't tell your dude EVERYTHING ABOUT YOU. Jesus is working on you, and your embarrassing past is no longer who you are - keep somethings a secret. Don't endure any kind of abuse or manipulation. Don't be shy around a guy you think is cute because he is just a person and have you looked in the mirror lately - you are so fine; so why wouldn't he like you? Pray before you go on a date so the Lord may guide you. Don't sleep with anyone because it will be musch easier to walk away if you keep your legs closed - and not to mention keep your dignity. Date quality guys you are actually attracted to - don't settle for less - unless his personality is beyond awesome - then forget what people say or think about his looks. Don't ever pray for a dude to be the "one" before you actually get to know him and date him for at least a year.


If all else fails - its better to be single and fabulous than dating and misserable. Your dude is coming - don't be desperate it looks so bad on you!"

Single Ready Waiting
I agree with Andile 110%
Hope you got something from her testimony.
You can find more of Andile's writing on Facebook under Love and Relationship Tips

Socialize and Enterprise Event Review

Sharing my thoughts on the Socialize and Enterprise Event held on Thursday, September 22nd, 2011
Organizer: Jon Sarpong, Editor of Sway Magazine
 
When Robert and I arrived at the Trane Studio we had no trouble finding close parking and we were still able to find seats even after 9:00pm.

Around 9:30pm the organizer and host Jon Sarpong, the Editor of Sway Magazine, had the audience engage in a fun and interactive game where we we had to find two people that matched the category announced. This game broke the ice and got everyone moving and talking.

Men to Woman Ratio

From my observation there seemed to have been a decent amount of men compared to woman that night. Very good thing.

Food

Didn't get the chance to taste the food. They stopped taking orders after 10pm not sure if this is a regular thing or not. Drinks however are still available.

Performers


Jay Martin had the crowd laughing and Karen Jules along with 4 great singers entertained us with dub poetry and song.

SRW Rating: 

7 out of 10 stars

This event is great for mingling and meeting new people and if  you happen to have a business even better. They are very open to having you share what you do with their audience.

I got the opportunity:

Socialize and Enterprise will be a monthly event so if you haven't gone, you should.
Trane Studio (964 Bathurst St), 7pm, $10  http://www.xlfaith.com/

Is Your Mind Renewed?

Romans 12:2
Be not conformed to this world but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind that ye may proove what is that good, acceptable and perfect will of God.

Food For Thought!

Welcome to the first Single Ready & Waiting Video Blog.

So you've met a guy or woman and your talking about going out together for the first time or maybe you've been getting to know each other over the phone.

My question to you is, are you asking the right questions?  

Are you about to cut someone off because they're lacking in an area? 

Listen to some of my suggestions and reminders in this Video Blog. It may take a second to load.

Off To A Good Start!

Love, Romance, Fun, Laughter, Intimacy, and Communication are a few attributes used to describe the institution of marriage. However research has shown that the first few years of marriage are usually the most challenging.

We believe our happiness is directly linked to how our relationship began. Having learned from past relationship mistakes, we had a different state of mind this time around. We decided to totally give this area over to God and ask Him for His guidance. His word says “In all thy ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct thy paths” (Prov.3:6). In doing so, we found that He masterfully orchestrated each season of our relationship.

The season of Friendship; Courtship; and then Engagement. During these seasons we experienced challenges, tests and learned some lessons along the way. Looking back, we thank God for them all. They only helped to prepare us for the realities of marriage. Moreover, we were presented with certain choices and when we chose to respond according to God’s word, it made our transition into another stage that much easier.

After finally arriving to the season of engagement, three short months later we walked down the aisle, repeated the vows and danced our way out of the sanctuary to a funky island tune by Jermaine Cowan. What a bright and sunny day in September that was.

Our advice to those waiting for a mate is this: try not to look at how long the wait is, God could be taking this time to perfect some things in you and your husband/wife to be. Instead, enjoy every moment you have as a single. Know who you are and what your purpose in life is and get busy living it out.

Marriage is God’s idea and we have chosen to live it out according to his Word. For a marriage built upon the rock: God’s Word cannot be easily moved. But will be like that tree described in the book of Jeremiah 17:8 one that “is planted by the water that sends out its roots by the stream. It does not fear when heat comes; its leaves are always green. It has no worries in a year of drought and never fails to bear fruit." By God’s grace we will continue to be that tree.


Robert and Tanika Chambers