Single Ready & Waiting: March 2012

Friday, 23 March 2012

Every Woman Deserves a COURAGEOUS Man

If you watched the movie Courageous you would know that this movie was POWERFUL and touched the very core of what God is calling all men to be: Courageous.

What makes a man courageous?

The following words come to mind : ACCOUNTABLE and RESPONSIBLE.

When a man is accountable and can handle responsibility he can become your COURAGEOUS MAN.
If not, you may want to refrain from getting into a serious relationship with him at this time until he takes life more seriously.

So what does an accountable and responsible man look like?
See my "SRW Accountable and Responsible Man Check-list" below from my upcoming book "Single, Ready & Waiting: Your Guide to Courtship, A New Perspective", to get an idea.

"SRW Accountable and Responsible Man Check-list"

He takes responsibility for his actions and doesn't play the blame game
He thinks about the consequences of his actions before he does it
He pays his bills on time
He does what he say's he is going to do 95% of the time.:)
He is reliable and dependable
He doesn't only care about himself he wants to be a positive example to other men
He cares about the needs of his own home
He can be trusted
He is honest with himself and doesn't give excuses
He spends regular time with God in prayer and reading His word
He is a good steward of his finances
He doesn't say the words I LOVE YOU unless he means it
He is looking for a commitment

THE RESOLUTION

Taken from the movie COURAGEOUS
Don't burn the movie BUY the movie here:
http://www.courageousthemovie.com/

THE RESOLUTION

I DO solemnly resolve before God to take full responsibility for myself, my wife, and my children.

I WILL love them, protect them, serve them, and teach them the Word of God as the spiritual leader of my home.

I WILL be faithful to my wife, to love and honor her, and be willing to lay down my life for her as Jesus Christ did for me.

I WILL bless my children and teach them to love God with all of their hearts, all of their minds, and all of their strength.

I WILL train them to honor authority and live responsibly.

I WILL confront evil, pursue justice, and love mercy.

I WILL pray for others and treat them with kindness, respect, and compassion.

I WILL work diligently to provide for the needs of my family.

I WILL forgive those who have wronged me and reconcile with those I have wronged.

I WILL learn from my mistakes, repent of my sins, and walk with integrity as a man answerable to God.

I WILL seek to honor God, be faithful to His church, obey His Word, and do His will.

I WILL courageously work with the strength God provides to fulfill this resolution for the rest of my life and for His glory.

As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord. ---Joshua 24:15

Ladies let's pray that men all over, will become men of accountability and responsibility and not shy away from being the man that God has called them to be for their community, children and bride: Courageous.

Tuesday, 13 March 2012

SRW Event Review - "The Conversation Party" hosted by Approach2Link

As usual when I get the chance to attend a single social event like the one I attended on Sunday, March 11th, I like to share my perspective and highlights of the evening with you.

First, I would like to commend Fiana Andrews the founder of Approach2Link for hosting the very first "Conversation Party" that I know of; in Toronto. The turn out was great and the evening was filled with laughter and of course conversations.

The concept of a "Conversation Party" was created by a man you've probably seen in the media. His name is Hill Harper.

Harper say's "we are living in a world where technology rules the day, people are facebooking, tweeting but not enough social networking. Everyone has things to learn and share; this is why conversation parties work."

HIGHLIGHTS of Event

You can't have a good Conversation Party without a HOT question.

The Question for the evening was:

Why are men not approaching the ladies/Why are women unapproachable?

The Conversation Starters.

Garry James aka Papa Grand and Nikki G.
They did a great job at presenting questions and keeping the dialogue going.

And Ooooh my the desserts by Chi Bakery https://www.facebook.com/pages/Chis-Bakery/273803036006491
:) Yummm

The Venue:)

The wonderful attendee's. There was a mixed crowd. Christian, non-Christians between the ages of 30's to 40's.

And

The Featured Speakers:

Gary & Amelia talking about their matchmaking company A Million Matches. http://www.amillionmatches.ca/howitworks.html

Get a sneak peak of what they shared here:

http://youtu.be/k1o7xDvedmI

SRW Review of this event

This type of event is good for both men and woman who are truly SINGLE, READY & WAITING, (find out how truly Single Ready & Waiting you are this June at my book launch), as well as those that feel they are not yet READY to entertain a relationship at this time. Reason being, "Conversation Parties" are to bring men and woman together to conversate. Therefore no pressure to give out your 411. If you are interested in meeting new people, sharing your perspectives on relationships, learning more about how men and woman think, and getting some laughs in, then don't let your "Not Ready" status stop you from joining the party. However, if you've just come out of a relationship and are bitter towards men/woman as a result of it, a Conversaton Party may not be the best event for you. Focus on healing from that relationship so that you can enjoy events like these in the future.

Also, while I feel that Christians and non-Christians can relate on some subjects we can differ in the way we approach relationships because of the God factor.

To find out when the next "Conversation Party" will be follow Fiana of Approach2Link on twitter:

@Approach2Link. Or visit her website

http://www.approach2link.com/

Wednesday, 7 March 2012

Why Did I Get Married?

This is just one title of the many Tyler Perry films out there that I liked.

I appreciated seeing the REAL issues these couples had to face in their marriage; it really goes to show that life is not always a bed of roses.

When watching this film, I began to reflect upon my own reasons for getting married. So here I am; sharing them with you.

Tanika: Why Did You Get Married?

First, let me tell you why I didn't get married.

I didn't get married because I was lonely
I didn't get married for status, glamour, or fame
I didn't get married because I needed someone to complete me
And I didn't get married without God's approval.

Why I got married

I prayed for God's choice and He strategically brought us together.
I got married because God made it clear that I was Roberts perfect match /help mate
and I got married because I wanted God's perfect will to be done in my life.
I got married because he had the tell-tale signs that I was looking for.

So where is the LOVE you're probably thinking..lol

Well the LOVE was all over these four reasons. It was God's love that brought us together, His love that showed me I was his helpmate, His love that gave me my hearts desire and His love that gave me the courage to trust His choice, which became my choice, for a life-time mate. Loving Robert with this knowledge, made it easy for me to do and our love continues to grow with each passing day. We understand that marriage is bigger than us. It is God's Plan.

I am still being perfected in love. But what I know about love thus far is this, it's not a feeling that comes and goes. It is a choice that you have to make everyday. Some days we may not feel loveable or feel like loving but we are still called to LOVE. And the greatest love of all is Christ dying on the cross for you and I. Love is not selfish it is giving, sharing, caring and forgiving.

Singles who are reading, choose a mate that God is pleased to give you and love him/her because this is God's perfect gift, to you, from above. Write your list; we both did and leave it on the altar of God. He will bless you in the right season. And when you walk down that aisle know that troubles will come, but with God all things are possible.