"A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones"

Why Laugh?

Studies have proven that laughter lowers your blood pressure, heart rate and promotes health and overall well-being. It keeps you looking young and it can lighten any relationship.

People are attracted to each other for different reasons and having a good sense of humour is one of them. Have you ever heard the following: " It was his/her great sense of humour that got me interested in wanting to get to know him/her better?" 

Or what about "there is never a dull moment when I'm with him/her?" Clearly a good sense of humour is a great quality to have.

Ladies and Gents get your LAUGH on with this weeks SRW Youtube Friday Pick.

What kind of woman are you SUBURB or from the HOOD?

This is Hillarious:)

 Some more Laughs

Planning to Become A Christian One Day?

So you haven't given your life over to Christ yet but God has been tugging on your heart for sometime and you know that it is only a matter of time before you answer that call and accept Christ as your personal Saviour. But until then how should you view relationships. My advice to you is to only entertain men/woman that are going in the direction that you are planning to go. In your heart you want to be a Christian, don't be ashamed about that or ignore the fact that God is calling you. If/when you meet someone ask the right questions. Although you are not there yet find out if this person is interested in going to church, reading the bible and I'm not referring to conscious lyric talkers i.e Rastafarians. Ask about their values? Have they ever thought about becoming a Christian?

It's a beautiful thing when a couple decides to give their heart to God together, get baptised together and then marry. Wouldn't this be a dream come true. Well I've seen it happen. Does this mean one should wait until they meet a man/woman first before becoming a Christian? Absolutely NOT. The guy or girl you might be waiting on may never decide to accept Christ. So the decision is really yours. 

Remember the right person will lead you towards Christ,  the direction your heading in, and not away from Him.

Tanika Chambers

Single Ready & Waiting INTERVIEWS

Fiana Andrews

Founder of Approach2Link.

Are You Single Again?

Pastor Riva Tims say's she is Stronger, Wiser and Better

 

AZ: After being a prominent figure in the Christian community and seeing how your marriage unfolded in the public arena, how were you able to cope with this experience and perhaps people making assumptions and speculations?

RT: Well, I must say that was a difficult process. I had to repent for how I used to make assumptions about others. I was so amazed that people just wanted to have a quick fix with no deliverance. It should usually take at least a year for healing to be manifested. Often times I would hear people say they did not need to know what happened and then try to give advice or encouragement. How can you do that? Or, I would get long emails of advice and they had never once talked to me. The best thing for people to do in situations like that is to never take sides. But rather love both parties equally. I was able to cope through real friends who saw my frailties as well. They were willing to pray and stand with me and cover me.

AZ: What advice do you give the wives of young Pastors?

RT: I would advise them to keep their identity. Often times as young wives we tend to throw ourselves into the lives of our husbands, children and the church. Yes, we should do those things but in doing them we must not lose ourselves. They must continue to reinvent themselves and become a life time learner, get another degree or start a business. Be willing to take me time for a regiment of exercise and beauty treatments.

AZ: How do you embrace being single? Will you marry again?

RT: All the single ladies, all the single ladies….well I am making the best of it. It has been quite the learning experience for me. I have learned so much about myself. There has been quite a few things I did not know I was capable of doing. However, I had no other options but to do it by myself. I started a successful health and wellness business; I am a radio talk show host, co-host of a television broadcast, and Senior Pastor and founder of a wonderful church. WHAT!!!! A man did not do that for me, it has been the Lord on my side. Yes, Lawd! I will marry again. I love marriage and I still believe that it is God’s ultimate plan for reconciliation even in the most horrid situations.

AZ: How are your children doing?

RT: They are doing well. It has been an adjustment for all of us. I certainly Praise the Lord for keeping them. They are doing very well in school, sports and they are active in extracurricular activities.

AZ: How is Riva different today from five years ago?

RT: Like the song says, “I’m stronger, I’m wiser, I’m better, much better.” I think that says it all.

AZ: What is your passion? Where do you see God leading you to? 

RT: My passion is outreach. I love helping others to tap into their God given potential. I sincerely and actively believe in equipping the Saints to do the work. My ministry is extremely interactive and members are encouraged to utilize their God given gifts. I believe my destiny took a detour but God is leading me straight forward into the destiny and purpose He ordained for me before I was even in my mother’s womb.

Read the complete interview here: http://inspiredwomenmagazine.com/iwmonline/?p=1405

"In 2009, Tims and his wife Riva divorced after he admitted to a year-long affair with a stripper. The couple had been married for 15 years. After the divorce, Riva Tims founded Majestic Life Ministries in Orlando; they shared custody of their four children, including a son with Cerebral Palsy, according to the Majestic Life Ministries website." http://blogs.wsj.com/metropolis/2011/08/15/no-answers-in-death-of-florida-pastor-in-times-square-hotel/

On August 15, 2011 - Pastor Riva Tims ex-husband Pastor Zachery Tims was found dead on the floor of a room at the W Hotel in Times Square late Friday afternoon. He was 42 years old.

For more on Pastor Riva and her ministry go to www.majesticlifechurch.com

Just Be!

Be the kind of woman/man a Kingdom man/woman would want to marry and if you meet a man /woman that is NOT kingdom minded, which means he/she is looking for a girlfriend/boyfriend to have their way with and not a husband/wife, then do not waste your precious time.  As mature Christian adults that have spent time in the presence of God, you will not want anything less than a relationship that has PURPOSE/DESTINY written all over it, and trust me when you’ve found it you’ll know it!!!                       

Be blessed by the following  message ladies, and gents, choose to be the kind of man that will pursue woman ONLY when your READY with a Kingdom focus: MARRIAGE and don't be afraid to make the committment of putting "a ring on it."

 

Are Your Weakness's Under Control

Right when you thought the Maury Povich show or Judge Judy had all the drama you read the Bible and here comes baby mama drama, adultery and so much more.
 Have you read the story of Samson in the Bible? Well let me focus your attention to this story. It begins in the book of Judges Chapter 13 and it's filled with so much drama it will keep you turning the page to find out what happens next.

Let me share a portion with you:

 “So she cried whenever she was with him and kept it up for the rest of the celebration.  At last, on the seventh day, he told her the answer because of her persistent nagging.  Then she gave the answer to the young men….Then Delilah pouted, “How can you say you love me when you don’t confide in me?  You’ve made fun of me three times now, and you still haven’t told me what makes you so strong!”  So day after day she nagged him until he couldn’t stand it any longer…” (Judges 14:17; 16:15 NLT)

What can we learn from Samson’s story.

1.      Stay away from the wrong kind of woman/man.

The above text makes reference to two woman Samson fell in love with.  Both  were Philistines, of whom God had forbidden the Israelites to connect with.  But, Samson did not follow this forbidden command and married the first woman, only to be manipulated and betrayed by her shortly after they wed.  Then she nagged him so much for his secret that he ended up telling her.  As a result, Samson ended up acting impulsively and stepped outside of God’s will.  A couple of chapters later, Samson found himself in the same predicament with another Philistine woman named Delilah.  She kept asking him to tell her what made him so strong.  Time after time he refused to tell her.  But, like the first woman, when her nagging became unbearable, he revealed his secret and ended up losing his strength.

Word to the Wise: Be on your watch and guard. Men and now Woman can be very persistant when they have their eye on a man or woman they want. Do not allow their persistance to fool you especially if they are not in the will of God for your life. When you allow yourself to enter relationships that are forbidden by God you open yourself up to all sorts of negative situations.

If you call yourself a Christian God wants you to only consider 1 type of person for marriage; a Christian man or woman. Sounds simple right? Well, for some it is easier said than done. Instead of adhering to God’s commands to marry someone that is within the body of Christ with a Christ-like character and a reverence and fear of God, they choose to date and marry someone that does not have the fear of God much less obey His commands. Then he/she ends up attending church alone trying day in and out to get their spouse to accept Christ and serve him the way they do. This is backwards folks and not the way God had intended Kingdom marriages to be.

2.      Notice the reoccurring situations Samson found himself in. 

The devil uses the same tricks over and over which is why we all need to know what our weaknesse’s are. The devil has one goal and one goal only and this is to steal, kill and destroy our lives.( John 10:10)

Samson’s weakness was women and lust, but yours might be something different. 

Do you know what your weaknesses are?

If not, you will continue to fall into the same old tricks, bad habits and forfeit traveling the chosen path God created for you. 

3.      Although God’s purpose for Samson was ultimately fulfilled during his last days on earth, he could have lived a much better life had he learned to resist temptation.  

No one wants to live a life of regret this is why it is so important for us to not give in to temptation. 

God wants us all to live our best life while on earth following His blueprint.

Here are a few scriptures you can use to resist temptation and starve unhealthy cravings or desires in your life.

1.      "Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;" 2 Corinthians 10:5

      Now make this scripture personal: I cast down imaginations and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God and I bring into captivity my thoughts into the obedience of Christ.

2.      Pray the Lords prayer everyday. Matthew 6: 9-13 “....And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, for ever. Amen.”

      Now make this scripture personal: And lead me not into temptation but deliver me from evil .......

 Tanika Chambers

Never been kissed, never had a date, growing weary of waiting?

"That was me say's Candice Watters, author and co-founder of Boundless. I'd never had a boyfriend until I met Steve [my husband]. I had no passion in my life. The longer I waited, the more terrified I was that it would never happen.

Take a deep breath. Your purity is beautiful. It's a gift. I look back now and I think that God protected me from so much by just not letting me have a date. Even though it was so painful at the time to not have a date when everybody else did, I'm so thankful that I didn't come into my marriage with any relational baggage.

Start to pray boldly, passionately and intensely for the men who you know in your church or work. Pray that they will start to have God's perspective and vision for marriage for their own lives. Even if one of them doesn't end up being your spouse, you're praying in a way that will bless all of your sisters in Christ. And then pray that God would bring a husband into your life. You can pray boldly, because you're really asking God to give you what He wants you to have."

This was a portion of her interview with CBN.com to read the rest in it's entirety go to
http://www.cbn.com/family/datingsingles/jej_candicewatters0108.aspx

Hope you were blessed by this share SRW Friends.
In addition, never be ashamed or embarrased because you haven't been on a date or experienced sex. While TV shows, movies etc. all promote sex before marriage, making virgins seem like they are behind in the times, no sir, no ma'am this is exactly what God wants for all of his unmarried single men and woman; to abstain from sex until marriage. Listen, you are very special and don't believe otherwise. Lift up your head, dust yourself off and walk in confidence knowing that you are a rare gem, on reserve for a special man or woman.

"And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not." Galations 6:9