Single Men Speak About Their Experience With Toronto Women

 
I was curious to know what single men and women think about Toronto men/women. So I asked the question; starting with the men. 


Please Note: These are the oppinions of 3 men and does not reflect the views of all men living in Toronto. The women they talk about does not also reflect all Ontario women.

I know these men personally and they are very sweet. If you are a Christian single woman (Between ages of (25-38)looking for a Christian, ambitious, caring loving man (they are both good looking too I might add) then  Send  your details to info@amillionmatches.com.

SRW : As a single man what has your experience been like with Toronto/Ontario women?


Man Speaks #1:

Boy, oh boy where do I begin when asked to talk about my experience with Toronto women. I could write a book but I'll try to keep it very short.

In my experience I have found that most ladies in Toronto want a man that who is financially stable, has a great car, a good job, a beautiful place to live, and is ready to get married right away. I don't blame these ladies, because I am not interested in dating a female who is on welfare but if a women is living in a bachelor apartment or at home and is unemployed but is ambitious and is driven to do something with herself I would be with her in a minute.

A lot of times when I meet a woman they think I'm cool and are excited to get to know me but once they hear that I live at home with my mother they usually go running really fast. Which makes me feel that I should not even approach a lady until I get some money in my pocket and move out, but then again there are the people who say it doesn't matter because if the person really likes you they'll make it work. However, I find it hard to make things work when your partner wants to go on vacation and you can't afford it, or they want to go to a cottage, expensive dinner etc.. and you just can't do it. I have friends who feel the same way. We know there is a minority of women who are financially stable, live in great homes, have great jobs and just want someone to respect them and be there to work with there partner and help him get to the next level but those type of ladies are hard to find and they are usually connected to the wrong person.

I do believe that Mrs. Right is out there but I am not going to waste my time looking her. I believe as long as I keep doing the things that I love to do  she will come when I least expect it.


Man Speaks #2:


My thoughts on Ontario woman

After living in ON for well over a century now I find I have developed several close 'friendships' with several ON ladies. There are a lot of seemingly nice, genuine ladies out here and most of these friendships I know will be long lasting ones. Relationship wise things have not run so smoothly. Since living out here I ultimately would say my take on dating Ontario woman has been quite disappointing. I've been in approx 8-9 'true' relationships since living here (of which for a guy like myself is quite high I might add) and only 1 went beyond a 2 month period of time.

I find ON woman picture themselves as very confident, direct & honest but in reality most of them are realistically confused, hurt and very distrusting (even unfaithful themselves). Most seem to have impenetrable walls up so high up that even eagles would have difficulty flying over them. Tones are materialistic, so much into how a guy looks that they will put up for a lot of the crap that stems from one, and then lump the rest of men into the same boat.

Lots will talk a lot about what they are looking for but once they find it they decide they don’t want it no more or that they want something different it’s almost like they are never satisfied no matter what or who it is. They want a manly man but at the same time see the need to dictate how this 'manly man' should be, what he should wear and how much money he should make etc.

I find most if not all ladies here are extremely selfish without even realizing it in most cases, getting a ladies attention is one thing but maintaining it is the other. To me relationships are about giving and taking so if both decide to get involved both parties should work hard at maintaining it. Once an Ontario lady is into you (attracted etc) they will do pretty much anything a guy asks but once that interest fades even the slightest bit it’s like you don’t even exist to them no more.

At the end of the day I find a lot of ladies are talking the talk but not walking the walk, wherein they be seeking something long term, true & lasting, but not willing to put in the work or even making sacrifices if need be. They say ladies (particularly single black ladies) out-number the single men and you would think as a result a lot of us men would have a field day with all the choices out there but instead I find the ladies are the ones controlling whom they will 'allow' to step to them (approach them).

I mean I am in no ways perfect and would never claim to be but after dating several ladies ending up with almost identical outcomes it’s almost like to be happy out here I moreso would be better off ‘settling’ with one of the ladies that I am not even interested in or attracted to.

Men Speak #3:

A man can get a Toronto woman. However to do so, the number of tests you have to pass involve financial success (or potential) and where you meet them (passing a social test). I just feel that Toronto women are generally very judgmental financially and it doesn't matter what a woman looks like. And those men you do see with women, are either well off financially, potentially well off or have played a large numbers' game. As for women out of one's league, I find that most women in Toronto feel that men are out of their league. Its an attitude. A man can ignore it, but it is there. And I also see a lot of single men and women out there.

How Can A Young Man/Woman Remain Pure

I am sharing this blog because many single Christians are struggling in silence with purity. For this reason I felt the need to share some helpful information. 

When we live in a world like ours how can a young man/woman (or older man or older woman) possibly expect to keep his way pure and to cleanse his life? What hope is there?  How can he/she cure himself of the problems of our age? How can he/she prevent getting taken into this sensuality, the flesh of this age that is wreaking havoc - not only around in our world, but today is wreaking havoc in the church of Jesus Christ?

Spiritual & Practicle Things You Can Do To Remain Pure

1. Read the word of God
2. Heed the word of God
3. Hide the word of God.

Psalm 119 and verse 9: "Wherewithal shall a young man cleanse his way?" - or how can a young man keep his way pure? - "By taking heed thereto according to thy word. With my whole heart have I sought thee: O let me not wander from thy commandments. Thy word have I hid in mine heart, that I might not sin against thee. Blessed art thou, O Lord: teach me thy statutes. With my lips have I declared all the judgments of thy mouth. I have rejoiced in the way of thy testimonies, as much as in all riches. I will meditate in thy precepts, and have respect unto thy ways. I will delight myself in thy statutes: I will not forget thy word".

Like David after my "relationship collision" I hid God's word in my heart so I would not sin against Him again. God is definetly a keeper!.




Scriptures to meditate on to bring about a change in behaviour

Psalm 119 - meditate upon the entire chapter


2 Corinthians 10:5 "Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;"

1 Corinthians 6:20 " For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's."

Philippians 4:13 - "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me."

Revelations 12: 11 "And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb, and by the word of their testimony; and they loved not their lives unto the death."



God Can Deliver!! A TESTIMONY OF AN EX-MASTURBATOR

Is Masturbation A Sin

Practicle Things You Can Do To Stop Masturbating:

1. Isolate the cause. There is a reason or reasons you masturbate excessively, and you must find out why. If you concentrate on just stopping masturbation then you will just return to your addiction after a short period of success. So, why do you masturbate? It could be because you are bored, lonely, hurt, stressed, sexually frustrated or it could be because of pains from the past. You're going to have to get yourself in a relaxed state conducive to productive thought to really find out why you turn to masturbation. What are you trying to escape? Avoid focusing on symptoms. Saying you masturbate because it feels good is not the real reason you masturbate excessively. Dig deep into your feelings. If you find this part difficult you may need therapy to help you discover feelings you are not seeing clearly right now.
2. Deal with your feelings. Dealing with feelings correctly is a skill and may be a skill you have forgotten or need to learn. Feelings are the result of thoughts. How we interpret the world and ourselves in our minds determines how we feel. We decide how we feel about things. If you masturbate because you feel bored then it is because you decided to feel bored. Nobody made you feel bored. You did.
3. Change the thought patterns that are leading to excessive masturbation. You can no longer see masturbation as a solution to your boredom or loneliness. The more you learn to enjoy your everyday life the less you will want to turn to masturbation.
4. Narrow down the times of the day that seem to be the biggest problem for you. Isolating the times of the day that you struggle the most can help you to focus your efforts better to overcome masturbation addiction. If you know you struggle most when you lay down at night then you can create a plan specific to that time of day, for example do not lay down. Maybe you need to exercise and burn some testosterone or oestrogen before going to bed. Exercise will also help you to be more tired and fall asleep faster. If you struggle at different times of the day or several times throughout the day then try to narrow down the times and the environment you're in when this becomes difficult.
5. Spend some time each day, perhaps in the morning, visualizing a new you. A more confident, sociable, outgoing you. It's important that you start reprogramming your brain on a daily basis. It may seem awkward at first but if you persist, you will become more comfortable with your new self-image.
6. Change your habits. You cannot overcome a masturbation addiction so long as you are spending a lot of time alone in your bedroom viewing pornography. Get out and meet people. Form healthy relationships and perhaps find another outlet for your sexual energy.
7. Have an emergency way out - When the wave of temptation comes you need to have a pre-planned emergency way out. Many people have found that snapping a rubber band on their wrist helps break the automatic thought chain that leads to masturbation. Of course you don't want to hurt yourself, just have something similar to get your mind off masturbating.
8. Have a snack . Eating can help your body and mind to change your patterns. This is not a time to worry excessively about gaining weight. (If so, then maybe a little more exercise.)  

MORE TIPS

• If you have the tendency to masturbate at night, in bed, do some sit ups or other exercise before you get into bed so you burn some of your extra energy.
• Never give up hope, you can and will overcome the addiction even if you need help.
• It is all in your brain, you can always replace your thoughts with wholesome ones if you really want to. You have the power to stop it.
• If you have the tendency to masturbate looking at porn on computers, try moving your computer into a room where others can see you.
• Consider installing porn-blocking software on your computer. Of course you will know the password to bypass the blocking function, but just having it pop up will give you a chance to reconsider and move to another activity instead of masturbating.
• One thing that works with the software is having a trustworthy and understanding friend set the password for you, so that you never know what it is. This way, the software will block your computer from being able to access porn, but you will not be able to deactivate it.
• If you have a problem in bed, keep mints or candy next to your bed. Sometimes eating a snack or a small piece helps. When your mouth produces more saliva it brings on seratonin, and that brings on a release of sense of well being and comfort. You can choose sugar-free so you don't worry about dental woes.
• If your thoughts happen in the shower, whistle, or if you can sing, then sing. Keep your mind doing other things. Touch yourself as little as possible - just enough to get clean - especially if you are not circumcised. Clean yourself, but touch as little as possible
• Don't think that you are addicted to Masturbation. I say to you today - "You're not". Don't think low of yourself. Always remember that everything is under your control and not you under their control.

Above taken from : http://www.wikihow.com/Stop-a-Masturbation-Addiction

"Living Solo" for 2 Weeks Without Hubby

They say...."Absence Makes The Heart Grow Fonder"

 When the nations call you gotta go!

On April 29th, I dropped Robert off at the Toronto, Pearson Airport. We kissed, waved goodbye and went our seperate ways. When I got into the car I realized I was missing one thing: the keys. Yikes..I quickly jumped out of the car and ran as fast as I could to catch up to him. "Robert" I shouted, about 10 men looked at me..lololol. Thank-fully he saw me and walked back. Phew..that was close. With the excitement of going away he thought he had left the keys in the car. Just another opportuntiy to exchange our warm goodbyes. Off to Zimbabwe he went.


Week 1

Because I am a woman that lives life on purpose, I was definetly not at home twiddling my thumbs wondering what to do with myself. In fact, times like these remind me about the importance of having a life outside of my marriage. Though we are one, God has given me a community of friends and family that I can spend quality time with.

Week 2 

It was only a matter of time before Robert and I communicated through ComF5. (Which is a great tool for e-marketing by the way). 

HEADS UP L&M and SRW : No matter how far away you might be from your spouse, make the effort to  stay connected. 

Thanks to a feature called LiveF5 (similar to Skype) on the ComF5 system, we were able to schedule Talk Dates. It was great. We shared how our week went and got a prayer in too. 

Week 3 - Thank God there isn't a week three...LOLOL

SUNDAY - ROBERT GET"S PICKED UP

After giving him a warm welcome. These are the first two things I'm going to say:

1. Robert, your turn to do the dishes..lol
2. And I won't wear my satin head tie tonight....but just for tonight..lololol.:)




Tanika A. Chambers