Ladies Beware - "17 Warning Signs of a Bad Boyfriend"

A married woman who said her husband now wanted a divorce passed along these tips to Dear Abby for the not-yet-married. 

"If your parents or siblings have doubts about him, pay attention. Listen and check it out.

If your intended has nothing good to say about his ex, beware. This is a pattern. Divorce is rarely only one person's fault.

If his children have nothing to do with him, do not believe him if he says his ex brainwashed them against him. My stepchildren have told me it was because they hated him, and they have good reasons.

Look closely at his credit and job history. They are sure predictors of what your life will be like.

If he's over 30 and has no money, do not let him move in with you, and don't marry him until he's financially solvent. If he has any respect for you (and himself), he'll insist on it.

Be sure in your heart that you can live with him AS IS. You cannot change another person.

This is a biggie: Beware if he has no friends. It is not true that they all chose to side with his ex.

If your friends dislike him, pay attention. This is also true if he hates your friends.

If he has more than one DUI and still drinks, run!

If he is one personality at work or with others and another person alone with you, run.

If he has nothing to do with his parents, investigate why. Don't take his word for it.

If he's an expert at everything and brags a lot, understand that he will turn off a lot of people, eventually maybe even you. 

Go with him to a doctor before you marry him. Believe me, his problem will become your problem.

If he is emotionally or verbally abusive, it will only get worse. Yelling, name-calling and glowering are classic signs of an abuser.

If he is never wrong and never apologizes, everything will be "your fault" forever. And after years of hearing it, you may even start to accept the blame.

If he does something wrong and says, "That wouldn't have happened if you hadn't (fill in the blank)," that's another sign of an abuser.

And if he's mean to children, pets, or animals, recognize that he's pathological, and the next victim could be you."

Wow after reading these 17 warning signs I knew that I had to share them. If you're a single man or a married man reading this post know that God loves you and wants you to be "Truly Single- Whole Without Holes" so that you can keep that woman. 

Change is never easy but it will be so worth it!  Ask God to make you over again, He will but this depends on how bad you want it!. 

And ladies in this month of new beginning you may have to accept the fact that the man you might be with is not the man for you, well not the way he is right now anyway. Something has to die to bring forth the new. Let him GO and if he's yours God will make him over again and present him to you again, READY.   

In the meantime, pray for  men everywhere that they will become the men of God they are to be: loving, caring, God-fearing, great providers etc..  Be your brothers keeper. 

The SRW book is not only reaching woman, men are reading it too. Listen to this candid e-mail I got today...hillarious.

 Life is hard enough..this is why it is so important that we get ourselves right.  Sometimes we need to swallow our pride and say God, it's me standing in the need of prayer..make me over again.

 

 Tanika A. Chambers