Ladies Beware - "17 Warning Signs of a Bad Boyfriend"

A married woman who said her husband now wanted a divorce passed along these tips to Dear Abby for the not-yet-married. 

"If your parents or siblings have doubts about him, pay attention. Listen and check it out.

If your intended has nothing good to say about his ex, beware. This is a pattern. Divorce is rarely only one person's fault.

If his children have nothing to do with him, do not believe him if he says his ex brainwashed them against him. My stepchildren have told me it was because they hated him, and they have good reasons.

Look closely at his credit and job history. They are sure predictors of what your life will be like.

If he's over 30 and has no money, do not let him move in with you, and don't marry him until he's financially solvent. If he has any respect for you (and himself), he'll insist on it.

Be sure in your heart that you can live with him AS IS. You cannot change another person.

This is a biggie: Beware if he has no friends. It is not true that they all chose to side with his ex.

If your friends dislike him, pay attention. This is also true if he hates your friends.

If he has more than one DUI and still drinks, run!

If he is one personality at work or with others and another person alone with you, run.

If he has nothing to do with his parents, investigate why. Don't take his word for it.

If he's an expert at everything and brags a lot, understand that he will turn off a lot of people, eventually maybe even you. 

Go with him to a doctor before you marry him. Believe me, his problem will become your problem.

If he is emotionally or verbally abusive, it will only get worse. Yelling, name-calling and glowering are classic signs of an abuser.

If he is never wrong and never apologizes, everything will be "your fault" forever. And after years of hearing it, you may even start to accept the blame.

If he does something wrong and says, "That wouldn't have happened if you hadn't (fill in the blank)," that's another sign of an abuser.

And if he's mean to children, pets, or animals, recognize that he's pathological, and the next victim could be you."

Wow after reading these 17 warning signs I knew that I had to share them. If you're a single man or a married man reading this post know that God loves you and wants you to be "Truly Single- Whole Without Holes" so that you can keep that woman. 

Change is never easy but it will be so worth it!  Ask God to make you over again, He will but this depends on how bad you want it!. 

And ladies in this month of new beginning you may have to accept the fact that the man you might be with is not the man for you, well not the way he is right now anyway. Something has to die to bring forth the new. Let him GO and if he's yours God will make him over again and present him to you again, READY.   

In the meantime, pray for  men everywhere that they will become the men of God they are to be: loving, caring, God-fearing, great providers etc..  Be your brothers keeper. 

The SRW book is not only reaching woman, men are reading it too. Listen to this candid e-mail I got today...hillarious.

 Life is hard enough..this is why it is so important that we get ourselves right.  Sometimes we need to swallow our pride and say God, it's me standing in the need of prayer..make me over again.

 

 Tanika A. Chambers

 

 

 

New Exerpt From The Book Single, Ready & Waiting

Are You Truly Single?

An Exerpt from the book Single, Ready & Waiting: Your Guide to Courtship

"If you want to have a successful courtship you must first look at what you bring to the road. Are you in the right condition to sit behind the courting wheel? Let’s find out. There is much more to being single than a person that is unattached. The SRW definition of being truly single is: whole without holes. 

What do I mean by whole without holes?

Have you ever placed loose change into your pocket, only to have them fall out because of a hole? Well, the same can be said about entering a courting relationship without first dealing with any unhealed wounds from your past. It can negatively affect your future relationship. So, to avoid this from happening you need to be whole without holes.

Being “whole without holes” means you have the inner assurance that you have been made “whole” through the finished work on the cross! You are at a place in your life where you are ready to receive, maintain and keep the blessings/person that God brings into your life. You would have forgiven yourself for any wrongdoing on your part. Also, you would have been healed emotionally, mentally and spiritually, from the actions of all those who may have hurt or disappointed you in the past.

Do you see yourself in this description?  Whether you do or not, this STOP will confirm what you already know and have done, or assist you in getting there."

"What can I say about your book; but well done. I am truly enjoying it.  I love the fact that you make it so real, with a sense of humour "pass me not oh gentle saviour" good one. Love the matter of fact advice and suggestions. Love the fact that you show scriptures for everything, so one can check for oneself. It is not a book that one rush to read, it is a book to learn from and practice some of the advice/ suggestions.  I made a lot of underlining. It makes one look at one self and ask the big question "Am I ready" I thought I was but after reading most of the book I am looking deeper within." CJ